THE 3 FUNDAMENTAL RELATIONSHIP TRUTHS

THROUGH MY OWN PERSONAL AND PROFESSIONAL EXPERIENCE, I HAVE COME TO REALIZE SEVERAL FUNDAMENTAL RELATIONAL TRUTHS.

  1. “The quality of one’s life is determined by the quality of one’s relationships.”  Therefore, learning the skills necessary to practice good mental health in our relationship with self and others is the most important investment we can make.  Understanding the difference between being a trusted ally from being a worthy competitor is key to building healthy, thriving relationships and ultimately, a fulfilling life.

  2. “We only have two choices in a relationship—the choice to connect or the choice to disconnect.”  Partners either move toward or move away from each other. If it’s that simple, then how can it be so difficult?  Moving from disconnection to connection requires information and intention.  My goal for my clients is recognizing the destructive, controlling behaviors that are disconnecting them from their significant others and then replacing them with caring, cooperating behaviors that help them forge deeply satisfying, successful connections.

  3. “To change a relationship and your life, change your self.”  In other words, the best way to change your partner is to change yourself.  I work with my clients to help them acquire the self-knowledge and skills necessary to make choices that will “grow themselves up” in their relationships.  Believe it or not but many of us behave in ways that unknowingly perpetuate the very problems we want eliminated!  Gaining self-awareness and taking action allows us to let go of the ways that no longer serve us or our relationships.

No matter how troubled, your relationship can be improved.  My clients come to understand that they must take action if they sincerely desire change.  The most strained relationships can succeed if at least one partner commits to making small changes in their behavior over time.  If you want to see change in your relationship and your life, please contact me for a consultation session.  I look forward to hearing from you and working with you to repair and reinvent your relationship.